Wednesday, March 21, 2007

The anal orgasm

Centered around the anus (obviously), the anal orgasm feels different from any sort of vaginal orgasm. It isn't likely something a woman will want to even attempt if she isn't acclimated to the act of anal sex. So she has to be warm to the idea in general, not just willing, before even considering it or there won't be an orgasm period from trying it.

I have found that the best way to give her an anal orgasm is for her to be on her back, legs in the air, as if I was try to hit her G-spot directly. It sometimes works doggy style, but I haven't been able to make it as intense as the aforementioned position. Perhaps that is because I am hitting her G-spot through her rectum in addition to the anal stimulation. Having her on her back also prevents anything from getting into her vagina which could causing a urinary tract infection.

Before beginning I have to make sure I have the right lube and enough of it! Dry anal sex isn't a good idea and can lead to pain when there should be pleasure. This article at FemaleFirst delves into lubes and has a good primer on anal sex in general.

Another good idea I have found is to ensure her bowels are empty first. I can check this fact by inserting a finger into her vagina and stroking towards them to see if anything is in there.

First I make sure I have warmed her up, and I don't just mean warming her up anally. Making her pussy cum is always a great way to start out before moving to try an anal approach. Having those endorphins flowing through her body before hand helps immensely.

Using a small toy or finger to relax her anus is a good idea, taking it slowly. When she is warmed up, enjoying it, and sufficiently turned on then I slowly ease in my cock, fucking her gently. I steadily turn up the pace until I am fucking her like a jack hammer, as hard and fast as she is able to take it (which usually isn't as hard and fast as her vagina can take it).

I always have to watch for signs that it is hurting and slow down or even stop if it is. Not every time this is tried is she going to be able to handle it. If all goes well she will have a mind numbing anal orgasm.

I have noticed that this is one of the most difficult of places to warm up enough to produce a full to life orgasm, so it might take repeated attempts before she attains that sky high pleasurable climax.

For your visual reference (and viewing pleasure), Alicia Klass shows off some good anal orgasms here and here.

Sunday, March 11, 2007

Cumming vs Orgasming

There is a difference, from what I have seen and even been bluntly told by women. When a woman cums it feels pleasant and is centered mostly around the vagina. When she orgasms it is generally a much more powerful sensation felt across the body. A great cum is a relief and puts a smile on her face. A great orgasm can make her nearly pass out and briefly forget her own name.

One woman I know described cumming as something she can feel in the area of her vagina and sometimes her breasts. Orgasming she described as something felt across her whole body from "my head to my feet and back up again."

Thursday, March 8, 2007

For starters

For starters on this blog, I'm just going to state one simple observation about giving her orgasms. The most intense so far seems to come from the following combo:


  1. Start her off with a nice sensual warm up of foreplay, pleasuring her from top to bottom.

  2. Bring her to a clitoral orgasm.

  3. Move to stimulate her deep spot until she orgasms.

  4. Right at the start of her deep spot orgasm hit her G-spot very rapidly to bring her to a squirting G-spot orgasm.

Most of the time when I get this combo right she arches her back high off the bed, screams, and shakes uncontrollably across her body from the force of the orgasms. I have even had instances where she actually seems to be trying to crawl away from the intensity of that final orgasm that results from this combo.