A nice sexy intermission

Fucking and fucking and fucking can get tiring and things will swell up and get sore. But what if you are still turned on and it still feels good? If you want it to continue but one or both of you need an intermission, avoid laying down or walking away to do something else. Keep it sexy, just tone it down a little.

Try switching off to using your mouth and hands for some light play. If one part is too sensitive to touch then work on another erogenous zone that got less attention. If everything that counts is a bit over pleasured then slow, light massaging with your tongue or hands on those parts can help relax and soothe, getting you or your partner ready for the next bout.

This is one of my personal favorites and a good way to keep the mood going. If you are still hard and she is still wet enough to get into, sit her on your lap, legs wrapped around you and slide her onto your cock. You can take this time to just make-out and very lightly shift around inside her.

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An orgasm faker wannabe

For a long time I never really understood why anyone would feel the need to fake an orgasm. If she couldn't cum or I couldn't get her off for some reason then no biggie as long as the sex was still fun. I didn't understand where the insecurities lie with a guy that couldn't make it happen. Though certainly my favorite part (hence the blog title) there didn't always have to be an orgasm for every encounter.

Then again, I had almost never had it fail to happen under my touch. They would almost always orgasm (or at least cum) and I could always tell when it happened because of the physical signs. I don't mean a hammed performance like Meg Ryan put on. I mean the sudden flush of blood across her skin, the convulsing muscles, her vaginal walls suddenly swelling with blood and becoming tight around my cock, her squirting, or me even getting pushed out while her cervix spasmed. What's more, I'd make sure that my partner knew to make me aware if she didn't get at least one climax. I loved them. For the longest time it somehow never occurred to me that women might enjoy seeing their partner get off and be as sexually fulfilled as they were.

I am not as sensitive down there as most men, so on most encounters it takes a lot of skill and finesse to get me off. Much more work is needed on me than the average guy. I came to realize this had actually turned into a self esteem issue with some of the women I had sex with on a regular basis. They would get off many times but most of the time I would walk away without cumming. I was used to this and have sex for the fun of it, not just so I can cum, so it didn't bother me all that much (not that I wouldn't prefer to cum, given a choice). I didn't imagine what kind of impact it could have on my partner, making her feel inadequate.

It kind of blew up in an emotional mess on a couple of occasions. Men can't effectively fake orgasms so the only thing I could do was to try to reassure that they were good in bed. That it was me, not them. Besides, I have a bad habit of utterly wearing out the women I fuck before I am anywhere near cumming, so after I have finally gotten the animalistic passion out of my system they are typically so out of it they don't have the wherewithal to do much.

I can sort of understand now why some women would fake an orgasm for the benefit of their lover's ego. Whether that ego stroking is just so they can get the crappy sex over with so he will give up or to make him feel like he did good because some times you just can't get off no matter how much you want to. Think this is sound reasoning?

How would/do you feel when you don't get off the man/woman that you have sex with? Not just once, but several times one of you walks away without reaching climax while the other is completely satisfied.

Delaying the inevitable

Sometimes you can have stamina and endurance enough to complete a triathlon but your cock just doesn't want finish a simple ride on the slip 'n slide. There are a number of tricks to use to keep yourself from popping your top earlier than your partner would be thrilled with and I don't mean by doing math lessons in your head or doubling up on condoms. There are much more creative and fun ways of going about the same thing.

Here are a few that you can use on the spot. These involve adding "spice" to give a change of pace to your cock. Incidentally these can add more fun to the experience for both of you:

• The good 'ol porn star dick slap. You know the kind, where he pulls out and lightly bats his cock against her ass, thigh, pussy lips, etc.
  
• The all way in, all way out, and stroke across her slit and clit. Just play with and tease her pussy with your cock for a bit.
• Stop stroking into her (even if that just means slowing it) but don't pull out, work her over with your hands and mouth, start stroking again. Alternate like this.
• Switch positions to give your cock a moment away from his best friend. There are many!
• Fuck at an angle that doesn't hit your glans (the most sensitive part of the penis) dead on.
  

Here are a few that require a bit of forethought:

• Senso sleeves instead of doubling up condoms. These add texture to your cock and unlike condoms, they are re-usable.
  
• X-Scream butter cream from Slumber Parties instead of something like benozocaine cream. Creates a chill sensation. For some women this feels wild but (in my experience) drives down sensitivity a bit for a man.
• A vibrating cock ring can help delay ejaculation. May not help much for some guys. May do just the opposite in fact, so your mileage may vary.
  

If you have already thought of these, or they just didn't work for you, add your own by way of comment.

Giving head without payback

I really love to go down on a woman. One of my favorite things. Many a times I have given head to a gal with no intention of getting anything back and then sending her on her way with a smile on her face. Sometimes I just get a craving for the taste of pussy and the sounds of her enjoying my meal.

I also know some women that enjoy giving head even if they know they won't get the favor returned (whether later or never).

I have to wonder if some of us never got past Freud's psychosexual oral stage. If I am not turned on in the slightest then the smell and taste of fresh pussy will get me going easier than anything.

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This little blog entry was inspired after reading a post at Polyamorously Perverse titled What To Do With Cum.

Six ways from Sunday - Cowgirl (reversed or otherwise)

This one is more for the women and should be pretty self explanatory from the title. You ride your guy like a cowgirl rides a horse. Hence the phrase, save a horse, ride a cowboy. Guys aren't really in control of this one. It is a good chance to feel fucked by your woman instead of the other way around.

Key word here is "ride", not "grind" ladies. Many guys have experienced it, where their girl decides she wants to ride him but instead just grinds into him. Us guys can't feel jack when you do this. I know it feels great on your clit to grind into his pelvic bone, and if he is long enough, to feel the tip of his cock rub your cervix. Really though, this isn't "fucking" in the true sense of the word. You want to bounce, grind, rock, and slide. If you don't do enough to keep his cock interested it might not stay hard as you'd like it.

Now guys, I did say we aren't really in control of this one, and you aren't, but you can help her out. Use some of the upper body strength most men are common for. Grab her by the ass cheeks and help her move! Bouncing her whole body up and down will really light those thigh and posterior muscles up after a while. This is your chance to do something other than playing with her breasts...or God forbid, just resting your hands on her thighs, which would basically make you as useful to the sex act as a dildo suctioned to a bench.

While doing a typical cowgirl position (not reversed, as in the picture), a variation on this is to lean all the way back and steady yourself on your hands. This causes his cock to position more at your G-spot. Then you bounce up and down in short quick bursts, tapping that hard cock into your G-spot. Guys, for your part in this variation, the top of her slit will be pushed up making her clit more easily accessible. Double her pleasure by taking your wet thumb, and pointing downward, position it on her clit. When you do this your hand should be right over her pelvis. Now keeping your thumb on its target move your hand up and down as fast as she likes it while she bounces on you. You'll almost look like you are washing a window with that hand movement.

This is a great variation and I have seen several women rocket up off my cock after a while with an intense orgasm. If she pops off your cock cumming, push her over the top by a position change up or use your fingers and mouth to take her to another climax on top of that one.