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Giving a woman a pedicure

I know this is primarily a blog on sex but I was convinced to put this up. A pedicure can be fun for you and a great treat for the recipient (naturally). You can give one to your significant other, a friend, even a family member, or anyone comfortable enough to have you handling their feet.

A professional pedicure at a salon can take about 30 minutes. Expect this one to take 1-2 hours depending on how long you spend on each step, so make sure you have enough time before you begin. There are a number of short how-to's on giving a pedicure available on the Internet, but what I have written here is almost the whole nine yards, with steps for each step, so be prepared for a read! Skip to any step if you just want the skinny on something in particular.

Things you'll need for a complete pedicure:

• Strengthening top & base coat
• Cuticle nail oil
• Her desired color of nail polish
• Metal emeryl or glass emery file
• Multi-step nail buffer
• Cuticle trimmer
• Cuticle pusher (rubber or plastic, not metal)
• Nail polish remover
• Nail clippers
• Pumice foot scrub (and optional stone)
• Foot salt soak
• Massage oil
• Non-greasy lotion or moisturizing cream
• Cotton pads and cue-tips
• Any nail art polish or stickers if you wish to add these
• Able hands, patience, and feet in need of pampering

Step 1: Get comfortable

• You should both be in comfortable relaxed clothing.
• Sit her some place that the both of you can be comfortable. You'll need to be positioned so that you can access her feet easily and go through all the steps. The couch or a comfy chair is the best place for her as you'll need her feet near the floor.
• Bring her a cup of hot coffee, tea, cocoa, or whatever she likes to help her relax.
• Light a scented candle with a relaxing scent such as lavender (or her favorite)

Step 2: Soothe her feet

1. A home foot spa is great if you have one. Most people don't have this so simply soaking her feet in a tub or plastic wash basin will do. Add the foot salt soak to warm water and stir it a bit to ensure it is dissolved.
2. Let her feet soak for about 15 minutes. It will soften and soothe them.
3. After soaking dry her feet completely with a towel. If you'd like, you can heat the towel up by putting it in the dryer for 5 minutes or sitting it folded over an air vent if the heat is on. Going from a warm foot bath to a warm towel will feel even better.

Step 3: Prepare her toes

1. If necessary, use the nail clippers to trim back her toenails so that there is about 2-3 mm or so of nail past the edge. Cut in a straight line, not a curve, to prevent in-growing toenails. Don't cut too much....you want enough there to paint!
2. File her nails with the emeryl file, arcing across the edge to mildly round out the toenail. Don't use it on the surface of the nail as emeryl files are often too abrasive, not to mention the metal edge can slice painfully into the cuticles. You'll need to hold each toe steady in turn so be careful not to squeeze it too hard.
3. Buff her toenails, edges and top surface, with the 4-step nail buffer. This will smooth out the nails.
4. Brush the cuticle nail oil onto her cuticles. Using your thumbs, gently massage the oil into the cuticle of each toe.
5. Trim of any bits of loose skin visible on the edges of the toenails using the cuticle trimmer. Do NOT cut the actual cuticles, despite the name of the tool.
6. Gently push back the cuticles using the cuticle pusher. You do this by sliding it across the back of the toenail against the cuticle. Some cuticle trimmers come with a cuticle pusher on the other end.

Step 4: Massage her feet

1. Prepare the massage oil by heating it in a small dish if you'd like. I recommend using KY Touch Warming Foot Massage, which you don't need to heat up in advance. You can activate the heat through friction (obviously) and also by blowing gently on the KY Warming variety.
2. Rub the oil between your hands to get them lubricated and to ensure it is warm (if you didn't heat it).
3. Massage each foot in turn using the oil. This should take 30-45 minutes. There are a number of good how-to's and videos on the web showing techniques for foot massage. Here are some general tips to keep in mind though:
   • If she is ticklish, go very slow and use pressure enough that the tickling isn't so bad.
   • You should use smooth slow strokes. This allows the tissue to better move blood.
   • The heel and ball of the foot can generally take more pressure.
   • Be careful how you hold her foot. Don't let your finger tips press into the tops. Try to hold it with your fingers flat.
   • Don't forget to massage her toes! Gingerly massage them with finger and thumb as if painting up and down with a brush between your fingers.

Important

It is recommend that you not give a foot massage to a woman who is pregnant. Pressing the wrong points can actually cause contractions to start in some women. Also, make sure any lotions or oils used are safe for pregnant women. Check the back of the bottle or box for warnings before use.

Step 5: Exfoliate her feet

1. Set her feet on a clean towel.
2. Put some pumice foot scrub into the palm of your hand and rub it around to get it warm before applying it to her feet.
3. Rub it across the top and bottom of her foot, including the Achilles tendon. Work each toe lightly and individually. Be careful not to apply too much pressure as you want to exfoliate the skin, not rub it raw.
4. Move to the next foot when the pumice foot scrub starts to create too much traction. The scrub will have broken up the cuticle and massage oil as well.
5. Using a warm wet wash clothe clean off her feet gingerly. You will probably have to re-wet it with warm water two or three times to completely remove the foot scrub grains. Don't forget in between her toes!
6. Use the pointed tip of the emeryl file to slowly and carefully remove any grit that has built up under the edges of her toenails. This is a delicate matter because the last thing you want is to slice into the skin under her nail.
7. If she still has some thick rough spots on the bottoms of her feet then use the pumice stone to smooth them out.
8. Apply the moisturizing cream to her feet to lock in moisture.

Step 6: Paint her toenails

1. Apply a base coat using the strengthening top & base coat solution to each toenail. Allow to dry.
2. Apply the first coat of nail polish in smooth strokes across the toenails, being careful not to get it on the skin, covering the whole nail. The smaller toes can usually be covered in one stroke. Don't go back over the coat of polish even it has just been there a few seconds as multiple unnecessary strokes can make the polish gummy and uneven.
3. Allow the first coat to dry completely. Blowing on the toes will speed this up a bit. It should not be tacky feeling when you apply the next coat or the tackiness will catch the paint brush as it is applied, making the coat look poor. While waiting on the nail polish to dry you can lightly massage her feet some more to pass the time, but be careful not to touch the nail polish.
4. Apply the second coat of nail polish and allow to dry completely.
5. Optionally you may try your hand at nail art using a nail art brush on the toenail of the big toe. You can use a cotton pad to wipe the tiny tip to the nail art brush when you need to switch colors. There are also polish bottles available specifically for nail art that have the art brush built in. I personally find that a nail art brush allows for better control though.
6. After any nail art is completely dry you will apply the top coat using the strengthening top & base coat solution.
7. Very carefully remove any excess nail polish from the skin around her toenails using cue-tips or the pointed tip of the emeryl file. Optionally she may wait until the next morning and just allow any excess polish to come off in the shower.
8. Apply any nail art stickers or jewels after the top coat is dry if you decide to.

Note

If she needs to get up, put some slippers or soft socks on her feet so that they don't get dirty while still doing the pedicure. As a nice added treat you can heat the socks up by putting them onto the end of a hair dryer for a few seconds. Obviously this can't be done if you are in the process of applying toenail polish that is still wet unless you have open toed slippers.

She should NOT do much walking until the polish is dried HARD. Otherwise the repeated pressing of the skin around the nail from walking can bunch up the polish at the edges little by little making an ugly mess. Stepping mostly with the heel of the foot can prevent this.

So there you have it! Hope it wasn't too much to take in! If you have fun (and still have a willing participant) you should be able to do more/better on subsequent pedicures.

....and who knows, that pedicure could take a more interesting turn for you both as it has for me before. Some ladies just love to put their well pampered feet to naughty uses. ;) Have fun!

Sugasm #106

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A nice sexy intermission

Fucking and fucking and fucking can get tiring and things will swell up and get sore. But what if you are still turned on and it still feels good? If you want it to continue but one or both of you need an intermission, avoid laying down or walking away to do something else. Keep it sexy, just tone it down a little.

Try switching off to using your mouth and hands for some light play. If one part is too sensitive to touch then work on another erogenous zone that got less attention. If everything that counts is a bit over pleasured then slow, light massaging with your tongue or hands on those parts can help relax and soothe, getting you or your partner ready for the next bout.

This is one of my personal favorites and a good way to keep the mood going. If you are still hard and she is still wet enough to get into, sit her on your lap, legs wrapped around you and slide her onto your cock. You can take this time to just make-out and very lightly shift around inside her.

Sugasm #105

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An orgasm faker wannabe

For a long time I never really understood why anyone would feel the need to fake an orgasm. If she couldn't cum or I couldn't get her off for some reason then no biggie as long as the sex was still fun. I didn't understand where the insecurities lie with a guy that couldn't make it happen. Though certainly my favorite part (hence the blog title) there didn't always have to be an orgasm for every encounter.

Then again, I had almost never had it fail to happen under my touch. They would almost always orgasm (or at least cum) and I could always tell when it happened because of the physical signs. I don't mean a hammed performance like Meg Ryan put on. I mean the sudden flush of blood across her skin, the convulsing muscles, her vaginal walls suddenly swelling with blood and becoming tight around my cock, her squirting, or me even getting pushed out while her cervix spasmed. What's more, I'd make sure that my partner knew to make me aware if she didn't get at least one climax. I loved them. For the longest time it somehow never occurred to me that women might enjoy seeing their partner get off and be as sexually fulfilled as they were.

I am not as sensitive down there as most men, so on most encounters it takes a lot of skill and finesse to get me off. Much more work is needed on me than the average guy. I came to realize this had actually turned into a self esteem issue with some of the women I had sex with on a regular basis. They would get off many times but most of the time I would walk away without cumming. I was used to this and have sex for the fun of it, not just so I can cum, so it didn't bother me all that much (not that I wouldn't prefer to cum, given a choice). I didn't imagine what kind of impact it could have on my partner, making her feel inadequate.

It kind of blew up in an emotional mess on a couple of occasions. Men can't effectively fake orgasms so the only thing I could do was to try to reassure that they were good in bed. That it was me, not them. Besides, I have a bad habit of utterly wearing out the women I fuck before I am anywhere near cumming, so after I have finally gotten the animalistic passion out of my system they are typically so out of it they don't have the wherewithal to do much.

I can sort of understand now why some women would fake an orgasm for the benefit of their lover's ego. Whether that ego stroking is just so they can get the crappy sex over with so he will give up or to make him feel like he did good because some times you just can't get off no matter how much you want to. Think this is sound reasoning?

How would/do you feel when you don't get off the man/woman that you have sex with? Not just once, but several times one of you walks away without reaching climax while the other is completely satisfied.

Delaying the inevitable

Sometimes you can have stamina and endurance enough to complete a triathlon but your cock just doesn't want finish a simple ride on the slip 'n slide. There are a number of tricks to use to keep yourself from popping your top earlier than your partner would be thrilled with and I don't mean by doing math lessons in your head or doubling up on condoms. There are much more creative and fun ways of going about the same thing.

Here are a few that you can use on the spot. These involve adding "spice" to give a change of pace to your cock. Incidentally these can add more fun to the experience for both of you:

• The good 'ol porn star dick slap. You know the kind, where he pulls out and lightly bats his cock against her ass, thigh, pussy lips, etc.
  
• The all way in, all way out, and stroke across her slit and clit. Just play with and tease her pussy with your cock for a bit.
• Stop stroking into her (even if that just means slowing it) but don't pull out, work her over with your hands and mouth, start stroking again. Alternate like this.
• Switch positions to give your cock a moment away from his best friend. There are many!
• Fuck at an angle that doesn't hit your glans (the most sensitive part of the penis) dead on.
  

Here are a few that require a bit of forethought:

• Senso sleeves instead of doubling up condoms. These add texture to your cock and unlike condoms, they are re-usable.
  
• X-Scream butter cream from Slumber Parties instead of something like benozocaine cream. Creates a chill sensation. For some women this feels wild but (in my experience) drives down sensitivity a bit for a man.
• A vibrating cock ring can help delay ejaculation. May not help much for some guys. May do just the opposite in fact, so your mileage may vary.
  

If you have already thought of these, or they just didn't work for you, add your own by way of comment.

Giving head without payback

I really love to go down on a woman. One of my favorite things. Many a times I have given head to a gal with no intention of getting anything back and then sending her on her way with a smile on her face. Sometimes I just get a craving for the taste of pussy and the sounds of her enjoying my meal.

I also know some women that enjoy giving head even if they know they won't get the favor returned (whether later or never).

I have to wonder if some of us never got past Freud's psychosexual oral stage. If I am not turned on in the slightest then the smell and taste of fresh pussy will get me going easier than anything.

So here is a little poll for you...



This little blog entry was inspired after reading a post at Polyamorously Perverse titled What To Do With Cum.

Six ways from Sunday - Cowgirl (reversed or otherwise)

This one is more for the women and should be pretty self explanatory from the title. You ride your guy like a cowgirl rides a horse. Hence the phrase, save a horse, ride a cowboy. Guys aren't really in control of this one. It is a good chance to feel fucked by your woman instead of the other way around.

Key word here is "ride", not "grind" ladies. Many guys have experienced it, where their girl decides she wants to ride him but instead just grinds into him. Us guys can't feel jack when you do this. I know it feels great on your clit to grind into his pelvic bone, and if he is long enough, to feel the tip of his cock rub your cervix. Really though, this isn't "fucking" in the true sense of the word. You want to bounce, grind, rock, and slide. If you don't do enough to keep his cock interested it might not stay hard as you'd like it.

Now guys, I did say we aren't really in control of this one, and you aren't, but you can help her out. Use some of the upper body strength most men are common for. Grab her by the ass cheeks and help her move! Bouncing her whole body up and down will really light those thigh and posterior muscles up after a while. This is your chance to do something other than playing with her breasts...or God forbid, just resting your hands on her thighs, which would basically make you as useful to the sex act as a dildo suctioned to a bench.

While doing a typical cowgirl position (not reversed, as in the picture), a variation on this is to lean all the way back and steady yourself on your hands. This causes his cock to position more at your G-spot. Then you bounce up and down in short quick bursts, tapping that hard cock into your G-spot. Guys, for your part in this variation, the top of her slit will be pushed up making her clit more easily accessible. Double her pleasure by taking your wet thumb, and pointing downward, position it on her clit. When you do this your hand should be right over her pelvis. Now keeping your thumb on its target move your hand up and down as fast as she likes it while she bounces on you. You'll almost look like you are washing a window with that hand movement.

This is a great variation and I have seen several women rocket up off my cock after a while with an intense orgasm. If she pops off your cock cumming, push her over the top by a position change up or use your fingers and mouth to take her to another climax on top of that one.

Six ways from Sunday - The Plow

Not exactly a sexy name for the position, but I call this what it is for no other reason than it looks like you are plowing into her. In fact, I am sure someone somewhere has a nicer name for this, but whatever. Enlighten me if you would like.

This one can require some upper body strength because you will be on your knees and once you are inside her you will be taking her legs, holding them against your body, and then pounding into her by thrusting up and down back and forth. She'll barely have her shoulders on the bed through each upward/forward thrust.

From a woman's perspective, think of yourself lying on the bed on your back. He is in front of and inside you. He holds onto your legs, parted slightly, with the backs of your legs pressed against his abdomen. He is up slightly on his knees with his legs parted slightly, the insides of his thighs slapping against your ass cheeks as he fucks.

Of course, don't get me wrong, I write these posts from a man-plus-woman perspective, but if you can pull it off with the same sex, let me know!

Six ways from Sunday - Fucking Sideways

She lays on her side, one leg straight against the bed and the other with her knee up like she has been drinking too much Captain Morgan. You straddle her straight leg and slide in. This is going to require some good ass control to really thrust well.

Forewarning: if she hasn't got much cushin for the pushin then watch out pounding up against that hip bone or be prepared for a sore pelvis. Your best bet for this is to position yourself so that you are angled towards her stomach slightly so that your pelvis comes more in contact with the back of her leg (just don't knee her in the stomach).

I can't confirm this for absolute certainty but it seems to hit her lower deep spot if you get the angle right. Whatever the case may be, it has so far seemed to drive some women absolutely crazy in ways I haven't seen with some other positions.

My conception of "fucking sideways" differs from what most seem to think of it. If you have a better title, or even a tasteful picture of the position, please let me know.

Apparently this is also the name of a drink.

Six ways from Sunday

Ever been fucked six ways from Sunday? Sometimes the best way to get a great set of orgasms is just with great variety. The more stimulation, the more ways, and the more times the better. I'm not talking the Kama Sutra here. A lot of those moves are more meditative and tantric than climactic and orgasmic. That's fine for you if you are going for a soul melding deep emotional experience, but I said "fucked".

There are 100's of positions out there and plenty with diagrams showing how it is done. Wikipedia has a nice entry if you want to read up thoroughly.

I'll be posting some of my favorites that often end up with the best results. Let me know how your personal experiences are with these. Everyone is different and I would be happy to hear what sets off you or your partner!

Just for starters, something basic....

Legs over the shoulders
She is on her back with her legs up and basically over your shoulders, or if she is particularly flexible, behind hers. Either way, her ass is going to be somewhat in the air and you will be driving downwards. This puts gravity on your side (as mentioned elsewhere) so you will have a bonus of being able to go longer provided your arms can keep up the support. Do those push-ups guys!

This position is also great for hitting her G-spot, so if you haven't found it with your cock already then start working on this angle!

The science of sex should never appear as such

The science of sex isn't something I read in a textbook. It is understanding little by little what works, how, and why and having as much fun with that as possible. You'll rarely find me blogging something here unless it is good for the bedroom (or kitchen table, or up against a car in a parking lot, or legs over shoulders ass perched on the dryer, or...)

Yes, for me a woman's body is like a big pleasure puzzle, but don't misunderstand that. The most technical question I have probably ever asked a woman after sex is "Ever done that before?" Everything is just discovery and taking in her reaction. Don't mistake that either. Last thing anyone (guy or girl) wants is someone doing stuff to them like they are a med student writing a research paper on sex. If you go into it with the appearance that you are trying to get it "right" then you have already gotten it wrong. You aren't into her, you are just inside her and she probably won't be into you for very long afterwards no matter how hard you can make her cum.

Three types of friends

When it comes to the opposite sex, it has been my experience that there are three types of friends. Buddies, fuck buddies, and buddies that you can fuck. You can't be in any sort of serious relationship with the person for any of these to fit, mind you.

The buddy: This is the woman whom you know as just your friend and nothing more. Never do you get intimate with her except maybe with the occasional random discussion of sex. She may very well be attractive but for whatever reason you or her or both do not desire to do anything between the sheets unless that involves her crashing at your place from drinking too much. Even then, nothing happens. She might be just like one of the guys in your eyes.

The fuck buddy: This is a woman whom you are on friendly terms with but most of the time you meet up it is for booty calls. You are friendly with her in the bed and rarely do you meet up for any other purpose other than you intend to fuck before you part ways. If the body chemistry runs out, you may turn into buddies, but you can probably just expect a comment on MySpace to say hi every month or so just because you suddenly remembered the other person.

The buddy you can fuck: This woman has the qualities of the buddy and you two can also fuck, but the fucking is far less often than the fuck buddy. You mostly just meet up or hangout like you would with your buddy but on occasion the circumstances are right for a roll in the hay. You are friends first and foremost. In between serious relationships you two might find yourselves meeting up as a convenient source to scratch that mutual itch, knowing you don't have to worry about attachment.

Exercising for fuck's sake - Stamina

For stamina, do interval training.

Rarely are you going to be having sex at a steady rhythm for long stretches like you would jogging on a treadmill...unless your just bored and chances are your partner will be as well if you keep it up. Sex is a series of climbing peaks reaching to an orgasm, the climax of which is best handled by some serious thrusting power, a sudden burst to drive her over the edge. You don't want to find yourself winded after only her first. Interval training more closely resembles what you will do during sex. At least, it will resemble the intensely wild and mind-numbing sex that can drive a woman crazy and get her off in a big way.

Interval training is really rather simple. For example, my typical interval training routine would be a 5 minute warm-up on the treadmill followed by 20 minutes of intervals then 5 minutes cooling down. During that 20 minutes I will sprint for 30 seconds at top speed then walk for 1 minute and so on and so forth. I'll do this three times per week.

This conditions your body in a way that is great for sex. Your cardiovascular system improves the most through this kind of exercise. The number of blood vessels in your muscles increase allowing your body to better distribute oxygen to the muscles, your muscles start to use lactic acid as a fuel source, and the heart's ability to pump blood where it is needed *clears throat* increases. As an added benefit you burn more calories doing interval training than you would with a longer lower intensity aerobic workout so if you are trying to shed the pounds and trim up this is your best bet.

A word of caution on interval training though....it is intense. If it isn't then you either have the heart of race horse or you aren't doing your sprint fast enough. If you are not used to doing aerobic exercise then you will want to start off with a shorter span of intervals (5 or 10 min) and/or shorter intervals (10 sec instead of 30). Work your way up to the 20 minutes if that is reasonable for you to achieve and be careful about it. Aside from a heart attack there are myriad ways to injure yourself doing something as simple as running. Make sure you have a good feel for what you can handle before you push yourself to the breaking point.

Lastly, don't do interval training every day. You should toss in some steady cardio in between your interval days, at least a couple times per week, so that you don't end up over training and so that you still get the endurance benefits of steady cardio.

Learning to have squirting orgasms

Going to start off on a technical note here...

Firstly, "squirting" is what is technically known as "female ejaculation." This is when a woman essentially does what a man does when he cums, minus the sperm of course. In fact the liquid she squirts out has almost the same chemical composition as prostate fluid before it is mixed with sperm to make semen. It is actually believed to come from a place called the Skene's glands, which is basically the "female prostate", and is shot out of the urethra just the same as when a man ejaculates.

Most women "squirt" to a degree but the force is so mild that it is felt mostly as just an increase in wetness at the point of orgasm and most of the fluid runs back into the vagina where it is scarcely seen. Then there are those women that can genuinely squirt. There is a big difference with women who can readily squirt when compared with a man. When she squirts the force of her orgasmic contractions can refill the glands over and over, firing out quite a bit more than most men could muster. Women like this are sometimes born with the ability and some times they develop it after the right stimulation of the tissue surrounding the Skene's glands. With some it can be a matter of just letting go due to the fact that a lot of women might misinterpret the feeling as a need to urinate because it comes out of the same (sorta) opening she pees from.

OK, enough with the technical side. On to the fun part....getting it to happen!

For some women this will come a lot easier than others. For some, it might not even be possible. One thing is for sure though, whether she can figure out how to squirt or not, it will be a hell of a lot of pleasurable fun for her to try and try again!

As strange as it may sound, a woman can sometimes need to have a part of her vagina "trained" to accept stimulation as pleasurable enough to be orgasmic. Don't misread that. I said "pleasurable" enough. At no point should there be pain or else something might be wrong. There also shouldn't be any discomfort, though anything new like this might feel a bit strange to her at first. As with any "training" it doesn't always happen on the first go, so don't get discouraged. Even if it does happen you will want to do it plenty more to develop that response. Again, I doubt she will complain. ;)

1. First of all, stimulating that area can make her feel a lot like she needs to pee so she should empty her bladder before trying this so she knows that what is squirting out is just her own cum. For your part, make sure your fingers are clean and your nails trim. This is actually important unless you want to risk an infection or bloody mess or both. Yes, this can be done with your cock or a dildo, but the fingers are much for versatile and that is best for this purpose.
   
   
2. She should be comfortable and not feel under any pressure to perform. This is supposed to be fun.
   
   
3. Warm her up with some good foreplay. You want the blood flowing to all the sensitive areas, her body ready for pleasure, and of course, her pussy plenty wet. If there isn't enough wetness I recommend using some water based lubricant like Astroglide.
   
   
4. Using two of your fingers find her G-spot and stroke against it slowly using a come here motion, going all the way to her pelvic bone. If you can get in three fingers that would be ideal, even if you have to bunch your fingers up. The reason I recommend three fingers is because the tissues and glands you are trying to work on are to the left and right of the urethra. This way you have a finger stroking each side and one for the G-spot. Just be careful not to bruise the sides of her entrance however many you can fit in.
   
   
5. The slow stroking need only last for a little while just to get them primed. Like any other sexual stimulation you give her you are going to want to turn up the intensity enough to push her over the edge. This means moving those fingers faster. This doesn't always do the trick though.
   
   Variations after warming up with the "come here" motion:
   
   • I have found that sometimes changing that "come here" motion to a "C shaped taping" (curling your fingers into a "C" shape) motion works better. Think along the lines of trying to tap your own palm with the tips of your fingers or like you are trying to "scoop" the roof of her vagina forward with the movement of your fingers. It takes some finesse but you'll get it.
     
     
   • Another method is to change to pointing your fingers towards your wrist (like Spiderman) and then very rapidly tapping them into the area right at the edge of her G-spot and almost against her pelvic bone. There is an added bonus of the palm of your hand rubbing her clit if you angle it right. To get extra speed you can use both hands at once by gripping the hand that is inside her and jerking it up and down (something men should be experts at anyway).
     
   
   
6. If you don't let up the stimulation, get the intensity right, and carry her to an orgasm (and on through it) then she might squirt. Depending on your hand position you might block that squirt so it is up to you to recognize it if there aren't jets of it. She may be in too much of a daze from the orgasm. If nothing happened, then like I said, try and try again until you both figure it out. :)
   
   
7. If it happened, be prepared to get a towel and a glass of water for her. She may be dehydrated after squirting so much out of her. She may even want to try it again after resting a moment, seeing as women can often have multiple orgasms. Lucky, lucky. :P

After all is said and done at some point she may be able to have almost purely squirting orgasms by stimulating her in the right way. These don't tend to be as intense so my recommendation is to get her squirting right on the heels of a more intense orgasm, which of course just adds more potency to the overall sensation. By this point, of course, you can likely get her to squirt just by fucking if you hit it the right way.

Have fun and good luck!

Erotic back massage

So what's erotic about a back massage? One in which you massage her insides at the same time as you massage her back. How can this be done? You just slide your cock inside her and use your hands on her back...

1. Have the heated massage oil on-hand. The KY Touch Massage 2-in-1 Warming works well, is non-greasy, and can be warmed just by blowing on it.
   
2. Use your hands to get her pussy good 'n wet (if not already) while she lays on her stomach.
3. Slide you cock inside her.
4. Bring her legs together, still buried inside her, and rest your knees on either side of her hips.
5. Slide in as deep as you can go in this position. Be careful not to put too much weight on her legs. You don't want them falling asleep from lack of circulation.
6. Begin massaging her back with the oil. As you work your way up and down her back rock a bit throughout the motions (this may happen as a natural effect) so that your cock massages her insides at the same time.

All of this of course requires that you stay rigid through the whole thing. So if you don't think you can stay aroused while doing this and still want to do an erotic massage, just use your hands on everything. :)

Let us not forget fucking

Of course you can use your fingers, tongue, and toys to bring her to an orgasm, but let us not forget good 'ol fucking. The best position I have found for bringing her to orgasm is on her back, legs and ass in the air. At this angle it is easiest to stroke into her G-spot. That much might seem obvious but the position has other benefits.

In this position you can use gravity to your advantage on the down stroke, thus using less energy and as such you can go longer before muscle fatigue affects performance.

Hold her shoulders or arms and you can bounce at a more rapid pace, pounding into her G-spot faster.

The rolling orgasm

This one doesn't truly end for her until the stimulation stops (and sometimes well after)! Think of rolling hills, where you aren't always on the peak of one but you are never quite back on the plains when walking between.

I have found (and verified again 5 minutes ago) that bringing her to and through a rolling orgasm works best if the source of the stimulation is varied as you go through it. First warm up every point on and in her vagina that are the usual focal points of her orgasms to get the blood flowing and the nerves primed.

Next and lastly you want to bring her to an orgasm, switching off the points or way in which to pleasure them. Keep in mind those ways have to be able to bring her to orgasm all on their own or else it isn't going to be intense enough to to keep her at the crescendo.

Here is what I do for that:

1. Stroke her clit rapidly till she orgasms.
2. While still orgasming I push in two fingers and quickly stroke her G-spot with a "come here" motion.
3. I stop the come here motion and with the same two fingers again I jab them into her G-spot like a jack hammer.
4. I insert three fingers and stroke rapidly against her G-spot some more but this time I lower my face and wildly lick on her clit. Be careful not to bruise her pelvic bone to the left and right of your three fingers.
   
5. I finish up by more rapid stroking in various ways to carry her along until it looks that she isn't getting as wound up by it as earlier.
6. I ease her down off the final wave by gently massaging her pussy lips and G-spot and sucking on her breasts.
   

From experience, a rolling orgasm can last anywhere from 5-15 minutes of intense sexual pleasure for her.

Finding the G-spot

I have seen quite a number of how-to's on this basically laying out how to find it. It isn't quite as simple or complicated as some make it out to be. Sometimes there can be confusion if you follow such directions. Most describe the correct location of the G-spot but what it feels like against the fingers seems to vary. One stated that it was kind of like a hard pea shaped nodule. Another described it as a spongy piece of flesh.

In my experience that pea shaped nodule isn't always there. Why? Because that is most likely just a lymph node and those aren't always in the same place. As to the spongy part, that seems to just be the the back of her pelvic bone meeting the roof of her vagina, and the result of them intersecting produces the change in tissue consistency. The spongy place seems to be pretty consistent and is a good way to know when you are close to both the G-spot and the Skene's glands, which are what make her squirt when she orgasms. The Skene's glands are also sometimes called the "female prostate" because it produces a fluid about the same as that produced by a man's prostate when he ejaculates. But anyway, enough with the technical talk.

The G-spot is basically along the roof of a woman's vagina right behind the pelvic bone. Where exactly it is varies because some portions of it are going to be more sensitive. You will know when you find it because her response will change when you stroke it. By stroke it I don't mean give it a massage, and though that will certainly feel nice, it is best just for a warm-up. To get the response you need in order to be certain you have found her G-spot you don't need to rub hard. Just do that "come here" motion really fast.

I have heard of some guys basically doing an interview while they probe around like the gynecologist inside her. If she gets frustrated from being under pressure or has to think too much then you might very well find her G-spot and then breeze right past because she was too flustered by your questions to give you the real response you should have been looking for. To restate myself, once you have found it, you will know it. Just pay attention to her body and the sounds she is making!

Another G-spot & clit power combo

Her lower back was hurting so I proceeded to give her a relaxing massage to work it out. Moved to her feet as well and then slowly worked my way up both legs. I then did a very slow and purposeful vaginal massage covering every surface outside then every nook inside.

When I could barely keep her from riding my fingers I decided to get down to the business of getting her off. Reaching for her lower deep spot I ended up bobbing her uterus up and down (as mentioned in another posting). After some light stimulation of her deep spot I decided to move to her G-spot with my fingers and brought her off hard with a rapid "come here" motion and then some lightening quick finger fucking into her G-spot (short, fast bursts of motion).

Giving her a very brief breather I slid my hard cock into her, pushed legs into the air, made sure I had my cock pressed firmly into her G-spot and then left it there. Placing my moist thumb onto her clit, my palm flattened, fingers sticking out, I stroked her clit with my hand a blur. A visual analogy of how my hand was moving would be someone trying to furiously wipe down a window that just doesn't want to come clean (be careful with this since some women can't take the intensity it can produce).

As one hand got tired even a little bit I would quickly switch thumbs in one swift motion being careful to keep up that same wild pace as before. It paid off as she started screaming and gasping for air, her body lifting up off the bed as she started flinging herself about, my hand never relenting on her clit. I swear I could feel electricity coming up off her skin from the nerves firing.

My cock had popped out from her wild movements so when it looked like her orgasm was starting to subside I slid two fingers inside her and working the G-spot angle again I also latched my lips onto her clit, licking away to prolong her orgasm as much as possible. By this point she was shaking like she'd been hit by a taser and had pressed herself up into the corner where the bed met the wall.

This was one of the best I've seen this woman have. I won't soon forget that stimulating combo.

Wiggling her uterus

Though certainly not orgasmic by any stretch, I have found an apparently amusing thing to do. Wiggling her uterus.

With her on her back, insert two finger as far in as possible and scoop them up under the bottom part of her cervix. Bounce those fingers up and down and her uterus will bob around inside her. You can even see it bouncing against the inside of her abs. For some reason she found this quite fascinating and while there wasn't much pleasure involved it was something that just felt "different" and "weird" for her (in her words). I was after her lower deep spot when I accidentally did this.

I have to wonder if it had any impact on the later resulting super powerful orgasm she experienced shortly thereafter. Though it could just be coincidence seeing as I was working other sensitive areas once I got back on the orgasmic track. I will have to try that again just in case.

The anal orgasm

Centered around the anus (obviously), the anal orgasm feels different from any sort of vaginal orgasm. It isn't likely something a woman will want to even attempt if she isn't acclimated to the act of anal sex. So she has to be warm to the idea in general, not just willing, before even considering it or there won't be an orgasm period from trying it.

I have found that the best way to give her an anal orgasm is for her to be on her back, legs in the air, as if I was try to hit her G-spot directly. It sometimes works doggy style, but I haven't been able to make it as intense as the aforementioned position. Perhaps that is because I am hitting her G-spot through her rectum in addition to the anal stimulation. Having her on her back also prevents anything from getting into her vagina which could causing a urinary tract infection.

Before beginning I have to make sure I have the right lube and enough of it! Dry anal sex isn't a good idea and can lead to pain when there should be pleasure. This article at FemaleFirst delves into lubes and has a good primer on anal sex in general.

Another good idea I have found is to ensure her bowels are empty first. I can check this fact by inserting a finger into her vagina and stroking towards them to see if anything is in there.

First I make sure I have warmed her up, and I don't just mean warming her up anally. Making her pussy cum is always a great way to start out before moving to try an anal approach. Having those endorphins flowing through her body before hand helps immensely.

Using a small toy or finger to relax her anus is a good idea, taking it slowly. When she is warmed up, enjoying it, and sufficiently turned on then I slowly ease in my cock, fucking her gently. I steadily turn up the pace until I am fucking her like a jack hammer, as hard and fast as she is able to take it (which usually isn't as hard and fast as her vagina can take it).

I always have to watch for signs that it is hurting and slow down or even stop if it is. Not every time this is tried is she going to be able to handle it. If all goes well she will have a mind numbing anal orgasm.

I have noticed that this is one of the most difficult of places to warm up enough to produce a full to life orgasm, so it might take repeated attempts before she attains that sky high pleasurable climax.

For your visual reference (and viewing pleasure), Alicia Klass shows off some good anal orgasms here and here.

Cumming vs Orgasming

There is a difference, from what I have seen and even been bluntly told by women. When a woman cums it feels pleasant and is centered mostly around the vagina. When she orgasms it is generally a much more powerful sensation felt across the body. A great cum is a relief and puts a smile on her face. A great orgasm can make her nearly pass out and briefly forget her own name.

One woman I know described cumming as something she can feel in the area of her vagina and sometimes her breasts. Orgasming she described as something felt across her whole body from "my head to my feet and back up again."

For starters

For starters on this blog, I'm just going to state one simple observation about giving her orgasms. The most intense so far seems to come from the following combo:

1. Start her off with a nice sensual warm up of foreplay, pleasuring her from top to bottom.


2. Bring her to a clitoral orgasm.


3. Move to stimulate her deep spot until she orgasms.


4. Right at the start of her deep spot orgasm hit her G-spot very rapidly to bring her to a squirting G-spot orgasm.

Most of the time when I get this combo right she arches her back high off the bed, screams, and shakes uncontrollably across her body from the force of the orgasms. I have even had instances where she actually seems to be trying to crawl away from the intensity of that final orgasm that results from this combo.